Four reasons why you should focus on pleasuring your partner first if you’ve got a low sex drive

Warning: this does rely on having a partner who will pleasure you in return! I know you might not feel like having sex (that's why you're here, right?), so I’m sure watching paint dry seems more appealing than giving a blowie... but hear me out first. Our sex drives differ hugely from person to person.…

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“In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”.

After watching a film called Sexology (which I'd thoroughly recommend despite the cheese) I realised that a HUGE part of sex is about letting go, relaxing, and just enjoying. One of the women in the film states: "In sex, you need to let yourself go... to the point of foolishness". This resonated with me so deeply. It's about…

I gave up coffee to see if it had an impact on my sex drive. Here’s what I found….

For some people (the chosen ones) caffeine does wonders. It helps boost mood, energy levels, productivity,  for some fuckers it even boosts their sex drive. But sadly (cue sad violin music) for others, caffeine is a total bitch, and has links to a decreased sex drive. This is because... It can increase anxiety: Caffeine can…

6 tips to manage anxiety and increase your sex drive

Back in July of this year I brought along an old friend to my 30th birthday weekend celebrations. To everyone else, she was a stranger but to me I knew her intimately. Anxiety. She shadowed me closer than ever that weekend, and when I came home in floods of tears and exhausted, I knew I…

5 ways that anxiety impacts on your sex drive

I come from an anxious family. We're door lock checkers, sun tan lotion smotherers, insomniacs, and chuck in the random obsessional thoughts about killing family members- yep, that's us. We're really popular people 😉 I worry about ridiculous things- whether my friends like me, whether I'm boring, if I put too many exclamation marks in…

If you feel anxious, lube is your friend

If you get anxious in bed, can't relax, or are having a dry spell, LUBE is the way forwards. It may sound obvious, but as a young *cough, yes, 30 is still young*, woman, I sometimes  felt like I shouldn't need lube. My judgmental brain told me that I should have no worries getting my…

Are you having brussel sprout sex?

In honour of the festive season I wanted to write this post, but firstly, let me clear up the title of this article. Not "Are you having sex with Brussel sprouts? "- (don’t worry if that's you, I’m sure there is a corner of the internet dedicated to solely that!). No. This article is about brussel…